Stress of Change
Moving, having children, starting a new job, quitting a comfortable job, getting married, getting divorced, buying a car, buying a house, upgrading your technology, implementing a new system….
How Do You Feel About Change?
Change can be scary – it can be difficult – it can cause anxiety.
So why do we have so much trouble dealing with change?
1. Difficult saying goodbye – whether it be to a loved one or a world that has given identity, change can often mean that we lose something of value.
2. Dislike chaotic and confusing – situations in which no one seems to know the new rules. This loss in direction can lead to a fear of the unknown.
3. Difficulty taking risk – we are creatures of habit which provides us with security, predictability, stability, and comfort. When this disappears we become anxious and stay awake at night worrying about our choices.
Key Problem Solving Questions To Ask Yourself When You Have To Deal With Change:
1. Is the change certain to happen, is it only ‘possible’ or could it just be imagined?
2. Is this change temporary or is it permanent?
3. Who or what is in control of this change now?
4. How strong are my emotions involved with this change? 1-10
5. Is my reaction to this change in perspective with the other areas of my life?
6. What are the risks and are they serious if I ignore the change?
7. What are the risks and are they serious if I embrace the change?
8. What results do I want to happen?
9. Have I sufficiently surveyed the alternatives?
10. Which alternative is best?
11. Is it realistic to hope to find a better solution?
12. Is there time to search?
13. Is this alternative an acceptable means for dealing with the challenge?
14. Should I implement the best alternative?
15. Who can I draw support from?
Beverly’s Hot Tips For How To Deal With Change During Take Charge Of Change Week:
- Guard against and challenge any negative thoughts regarding the change
- Use the questions above to problem solve and take action
- Let go and relax
How To Deal With Change
Dealing with change can be stressful. Achieve a sense of control by problem-solving around what you can control and letting go of what you can’t control. Control starts in your own mind. If you believe you have control of your life, then you probably do. Actions are the easiest to control, while thoughts and emotions are harder to control. Actions have a positive effect on our thoughts and emotions. Start by controlling your actions.
If you have some strategies to share – comment on this posting!