I don’t think that I liked my parents much growing up
They were always telling me what to do. Always treated my brother better than me. They never let me do anything that I wanted to…
It’s funny, but I am hearing my own children say much of the same things, even though I swore I would be a better parent than mine ever were.
I like my parents today. They are there when I need them. Always call and let me know what’s going on back home and sometimes they just want to chat. Interested in what I am doing. They don’t really ever tell me what to do, but help me to figure it on my own.
Parenting and Stress
When my son was little and on holidays at his grandparent’s farm, far away from me, he phoned to say that he loved me…and that he shot a skunk.
Parenting is hard. It is not for the weak at heart. It is not about unconditional love that you are given as a parent, in fact, you are often told that you are not loved and that you are the worst parent in the world.
Parenting is about the unconditional love that you give to your children often with very few rewards given back at time. Click to tweet
Parents’ Day is established for “recognizing, uplifting, and supporting the role of parents in the rearing of children.” We know that the role of parents is crucial in the nurturing and development of children, and thus requires investment, focus, and commitment by the community around them.
Beverly’s Hot Tips Building Resiliency and Celebrating Parent’s Day:
- Look through your family pictures and focus on the easy, fun and/or rewarding times, instead of the difficult times that you have had as a parent
- Share a special memory with your child about your child. Let them know that you hold them dear to your heart
- Share a special memory of your own childhood. Let your children know that you didn’t always value your parents, but you do now
- Call your own parents and let them know that you appreciate them as parents
Parenting is hard. We need to support each other as parents and let each other know that perfection is not the key but self-confident, happy adult children is the reward. Happy Parent’s Day!
If you have some strategies to share – comment on this posting!