How To Deal With Difficult People – My Way Or The Highway!
Today is My Way Day.
Yes, it is MY way or the highway!
I like MY way, it is the RIGHT way. It is the ONLY way!
Why, because I said so.
I know it is so.
You just haven’t realized it to be so.
And until you come around to my way of thinking, just do as I say and life will be much better for all of us.
And don’t argue with me. When it is Your Way Day, I’ll do what you say, so, til then, remember it is MY Way Day!
It’s All About Controlling It
I jest, but part of it is true. I really do want things my way. It’s all about control and I like to have control. But I know that not having control isn’t always a bad thing. In fact, sometimes it is a good thing. I also know that it is impossible to control everything and that it is especially wrong to take control from someone. But still, I am most comfortable when I am in control.
How To Deal With Difficult People
I can be seen as a difficult person and in fact I am one of the ‘characters’ that I talk about in my workshops. When we understand what motivates others and what motivates ourselves, it is much easier to deal with the negative sides of these personalities.
People like me, need to have choice.
When we have options and are able to choose, we feel like we are more in control of the situation. We are less likely to stomp, scream or shout and our frustrations are kept to a minimum. Click to tweet
Not All Difficult People Are The Same
Some people are much more extreme and can not accept that others are also in control. They can not sit back and allow others to take over. They bully and intimidate to get their own way and will cut people out of their lives that they can’t have control over.
Beverly’s Hot Tips On How To Build Resilience and For Celebrating My Way Day:
- Just because it is My Way Day, don’t expect that everything will go your way, because funny enough, others think it is their way day too.
- Learn what pushes your buttons and learn what pushes other people’s buttons. How can you help them meet their needs while still meeting your own/ (Hint: If you don’t know how, you may want to attend my Handling Negative Attitudes and Difficult People workshop)
- Relaxation skills can help to reduce that overwhelmed, frustrated feeling, helping to prevent you from stomping around
Contact Beverly about hosting a workshop for your teams on how to deal with difficult people at work. Learn strategies to create a more positive attitude in the workplace and encourage an engaging, safe working environment!
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