Let It Go
Regretful Situations and Difficult People.
These can play on our minds and lead us to becoming angry, frustrated, hurt, guilt-ridden or even embarrassed. It is time to let them go.
Why is Letting It Go So Hard?
I get it. I understand why it is so hard to let go of the anger, resentment, frustration, guilt and regret. Moving past these situations is difficult. Your logical mind wants to work it out so that it doesn’t happen again. You focus on the “what if’s” and “if only’s”. You replay the situation over and over.
We have this need to be right. It is a safety thing, and being wrong is not safe. So we dream up all the reasons that we were right and the other person or situation was some how ‘wrong’. Letting go feels like we are admitting that we were wrong in some way.
Holding on to pain doesn’t fix anything. Replaying the past over and over again doesn’t change it, and wishing things were different doesn’t make it so.
Beverly’s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating Let It Go Day:
- Identify those situations or people that pushed your ‘buttons’
- Try to look at the situation or person without judgement. What lesson can you learn and appreciate that you have learned that lesson
- Recognize the emotions behind these situations and then do something to relieve the tension. Try deep breathing, a hobby or exercise
- Positive self-talk. Reaffirm that you are doing the best that you can and that letting go is not ‘wrong’
- Rely on your positive supports to keep the situation in perspective
New Perspective
Stepping out of the situation provides new insight and perspective. Letting go can be the first step in obtaining a more realistic perspective. The past is what it is and can’t be changed, but you do have the ability to create a more empowering story about it.
Make it a point to never regret. Regret is an appalling waste of energy. It is only good for wallowing in. Unknown author
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