Perfectionists are extremely hard workers and they generally accomplish more than the average person. However, perfectionists are extremely hard on themselves and on those around them. They see the smallest details of imperfection while for the average person it is not even on their radar. Perfectionism has been linked to anxiety disorders, depressive disorders, eating disorders, alcoholism and many other destructive behaviors and problems.
The problem is that many people believe that their perfectionism has worked well for them and that it has fueled their success. Researchers; however, say there is a clear difference between healthy striving and perfectionism.
According to Brené Brown, perfectionism is a self-destructive and an addictive belief system “If I look perfect, live perfectly, and do everything perfectly then I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment and blame.” Perfectionism is an addiction because it is unattainable and you are not the one in control.
Perfectionism is not the same as self-improvement or wanting to be your best. Perfectionism is motivated by the desire to please others rather than yourself.
- Physical exhaustion and burnout are common
- Opportunities are missed because you are too afraid to put anything out in the world that could be imperfect
- You may find yourself endlessly refining rather than creating anything new
- As a leader, your team may be afraid to take risks for fear of making mistakes and being viewed as a failure
I found a quote that said that Less Than Perfect Is A Perfect Start. Something I need to keep in mind.
Beverly`s Hot Tips For Building Resiliency On Less Than Perfect Day:
- No one is perfect and that is okay.
- Practice by letting go. Start by giving yourself permission to not be ‘perfect’ all of the time. Leave a few dishes on the counter and walk away. Don’t group all of the pens and pencils on your desk. Don’t waste printing off another copy, just because the words didn’t line up on the page the way you think that they should.
- Practice self-compassion. Challenge those thoughts of criticism and unrealistic expectations. Stop them in their tracks and change them to something less critical or better yet, take note of the positive in the situation.
- Use positive affirmations like the ones below:
- Know your priorities. Is what you are spending your time trying to perfect a part of your priorities and values? If not, move on.
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