Do you hold a grudge? Are you holding onto one now?
January is the month of new resolutions. It is also the month to Get Over It. Whatever ‘It’ is. ‘It‘ can be very destructive emotionally and physically. It is not to say that feeling hurt or angry is bad, but holding on to hurt and anger for a long time is.
Beverly’s Hot Tips For Celebrating Get Over It Month:
- Look at the positive aspect of your life. Negative situations will always occur but often they take you on a journey that you didn’t expect. Along the way you may have encountered other people, learned new skills, or found strengths that you wouldn’t have if the situation hadn’t occurred in the first place.
- Weigh the risks. Holding a grudge takes energy and has a negative impact on your health. It can keep you awake at night, it can cause excessive dread and worry and negatively impact your digestion. It can bring about Depression. Weigh out the risks of hanging on to that grudge or negative emotion and see if it really is worth the energy.
- Find the right strategies. It is easy to say ‘get over it’, but how do you go about letting go? Find productive ways like exercising, visualization and deep breathing, journaling about the situation and how it made you feel, or finding someone that you can confidentially vent to and express what your feeling…but don’t continually bring it up.
- Shift your focus forward. What are the new challenges that you are facing? Give these your time and attention.
Learn How To Accept It
Finally, learn to accept what is. You may not hear an apology. The person may never admit their mistake but that shouldn’t be the goal in trying to get over something.
Often hearing someone say sorry doesn’t make us feel better. Only you can change your perspective and focus, so start today and Get Over It. Click to tweet
If you have some strategies to share – comment on this posting!